Love Isn’t Just Romance Premanand Ji Maharaj’s 7 Lessons Prove It
Ankita Rai | Tue, 27 May 2025
Premanand Ji Maharaj teaches that love goes far beyond romance—it is unconditional, selfless, and spiritual. His seven key lessons emphasize loving without expectations, starting with self-love, practicing detachment without indifference, and expressing love through service. Forgiveness and seeing the divine in others deepen love’s meaning, while love as a daily discipline strengthens relationships even in hardship. Maharaj Ji’s wisdom invites us to redefine love as a lifelong practice of presence, kindness, and devotion, showing that true love transforms not just hearts but lives.
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Love isn’t what the movies taught us. It’s not about butterflies, perfect timing, or grand gestures. It's not always pretty. It’s not always easy. And it’s definitely not always returned. Premanand Ji Maharaj doesn’t sugarcoat it either. In a world obsessed with romance and heartbreak playlists, he gently but firmly offers a truth that most of us spend a lifetime avoiding: Real love is not a feeling. It's how you live. If you’ve ever sat alone wondering why love hurts, why people leave, or why your heart still longs even after giving everything, maybe these words will feel like home. Here are seven things Premanand Ji Maharaj teaches about love. They’re not poetic. They’re not glamorous. But they’re real. And they just might shift the way you show up in the world.
1. If there are conditions, it’s not love
We say "I love you" and secretly mean "as long as you don’t change" or "as long as you love me back." That’s not love. That’s a deal. True love doesn’t ask for anything. Not your perfection. Not your attention. Not even your presence. It flows, quietly, without reward.
Premanand Ji says if your love disappears when things get uncomfortable, it was never love. It was comfort dressed up.
2. You can’t give what you don’t have
If you keep rejecting yourself, you’ll keep looking for people to heal that wound. And they never will. When Maharaj says, love yourself, he’s not being cliché. He’s being practical. If you don't feel worthy, you’ll sabotage every good thing that comes your way. Start with being kind to the parts of you you’ve been taught to hate. That’s where real love begins. Quietly. At home. Inside.
3. Loving doesn’t mean holding on
The hardest kind of love is letting someone go and still praying for their peace. We think love means gripping tightly, being afraid to lose. But Maharaj reminds us that real love gives freedom. It’s never about ownership. If they need to leave, let them. Don’t shut the door with bitterness. Love doesn’t vanish with distance. It just changes shape.
4. Love is what you do when no one’s looking
You can say "I love you" a hundred times and still not love someone. What matters is how you show up. Did you listen when they were tired? Did you feed someone hungry without posting it online? Did you pick up the phone even when you didn’t feel like it?
Maharaj teaches that selfless service is love in motion. You don’t need to announce it. Just do it.
5. If you can’t forgive, you stay stuck
Carrying resentment is like drinking poison hoping they suffer. Forgiveness doesn’t mean what they did was okay. It means you choose to stop hurting yourself with it. You let go, not for their sake, but for yours. Maharaj says holding a grudge keeps your heart closed. Let it go. Not because they deserve peace, but because you do.
6. See the divine in people, even when it’s hard
This one isn’t easy. Especially when people hurt us. But Premanand Ji believes every soul carries light, even the ones who’ve gone dark.
When you look at someone and try to see their pain instead of just their faults, something shifts. You become softer, stronger, wiser.
You don’t need to agree with them. Just recognize they’re human too. Flawed. Confused. Searching. Just like you.
7. Love is a decision you make every single day
Feelings fade. Beauty changes. People mess up. But love, real love, is a choice. You choose to stay. You choose to listen. You choose to show up when it’s hard. Maharaj doesn’t romanticize it. He says plainly, if you want your love to last, make it your daily practice. Like brushing your teeth. Like prayer.
The kind of love that lasts isn’t loud
It doesn’t chase. It doesn’t demand. It doesn’t show off. It’s in the quiet moments. The simple gestures. The gentle staying.
Premanand Ji Maharaj’s teachings aren’t just wisdom from the scriptures. They’re lessons written in the language of the soul. The kind you don’t just read. You feel them. You live them. So if you’ve ever felt that love failed you, maybe it didn’t. Maybe you were just shown the kind that wasn’t real. The real kind is still here. Waiting. In your words. Your actions. Your ability to keep your heart open when it would be easier to shut it down. That’s love. That’s all it ever was.
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1. If there are conditions, it’s not love
being in love is one of the greatest feelings
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We say "I love you" and secretly mean "as long as you don’t change" or "as long as you love me back." That’s not love. That’s a deal. True love doesn’t ask for anything. Not your perfection. Not your attention. Not even your presence. It flows, quietly, without reward.
Premanand Ji says if your love disappears when things get uncomfortable, it was never love. It was comfort dressed up.
2. You can’t give what you don’t have
love does not demand anything
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If you keep rejecting yourself, you’ll keep looking for people to heal that wound. And they never will. When Maharaj says, love yourself, he’s not being cliché. He’s being practical. If you don't feel worthy, you’ll sabotage every good thing that comes your way. Start with being kind to the parts of you you’ve been taught to hate. That’s where real love begins. Quietly. At home. Inside.
3. Loving doesn’t mean holding on
to love is to let go
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The hardest kind of love is letting someone go and still praying for their peace. We think love means gripping tightly, being afraid to lose. But Maharaj reminds us that real love gives freedom. It’s never about ownership. If they need to leave, let them. Don’t shut the door with bitterness. Love doesn’t vanish with distance. It just changes shape.
4. Love is what you do when no one’s looking
lovers
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You can say "I love you" a hundred times and still not love someone. What matters is how you show up. Did you listen when they were tired? Did you feed someone hungry without posting it online? Did you pick up the phone even when you didn’t feel like it?
Maharaj teaches that selfless service is love in motion. You don’t need to announce it. Just do it.
5. If you can’t forgive, you stay stuck
forgiveness is also a form of love
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Carrying resentment is like drinking poison hoping they suffer. Forgiveness doesn’t mean what they did was okay. It means you choose to stop hurting yourself with it. You let go, not for their sake, but for yours. Maharaj says holding a grudge keeps your heart closed. Let it go. Not because they deserve peace, but because you do.
6. See the divine in people, even when it’s hard
you see the unseen in your lover
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This one isn’t easy. Especially when people hurt us. But Premanand Ji believes every soul carries light, even the ones who’ve gone dark.
When you look at someone and try to see their pain instead of just their faults, something shifts. You become softer, stronger, wiser.
You don’t need to agree with them. Just recognize they’re human too. Flawed. Confused. Searching. Just like you.
7. Love is a decision you make every single day
loving someone is a choice
( Image credit : Pexels )
Feelings fade. Beauty changes. People mess up. But love, real love, is a choice. You choose to stay. You choose to listen. You choose to show up when it’s hard. Maharaj doesn’t romanticize it. He says plainly, if you want your love to last, make it your daily practice. Like brushing your teeth. Like prayer.
The kind of love that lasts isn’t loud
It doesn’t chase. It doesn’t demand. It doesn’t show off. It’s in the quiet moments. The simple gestures. The gentle staying.
Premanand Ji Maharaj’s teachings aren’t just wisdom from the scriptures. They’re lessons written in the language of the soul. The kind you don’t just read. You feel them. You live them. So if you’ve ever felt that love failed you, maybe it didn’t. Maybe you were just shown the kind that wasn’t real. The real kind is still here. Waiting. In your words. Your actions. Your ability to keep your heart open when it would be easier to shut it down. That’s love. That’s all it ever was.
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Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
- What is Premanand Ji Maharaj’s view on love?He sees love as unconditional, selfless, and a spiritual practice beyond just romance.
- How does Maharaj Ji define true love?True love is giving without expecting anything in return and forgiving sincerely.
- Why is self-love important according to Premanand Ji?Because loving yourself fully is the foundation for loving others genuinely.
