Gaur Gopal Das’ Regret: Begging for Forgiveness, But His Father Couldn’t Hug Him Back!

The deepest sorrow is not being able to give anything to your father, but it is more so in not being able to apologize for the mistake that hurt him. The regret becomes unbearable when that mistake is something that caused pain. The worst part is, no matter how many times you beg for forgiveness from a lifeless body, it can no longer forgive or hug you back. That's a wound that will forever stay with you, never really fading as a burden.( All pictures credit: Instagram @gaurgopaldas)
Gaur Gopal Das recently opened up about one of the most intimate experiences in his life. He has expressed that this can happen with any person, and by sharing such a story, he hopes it will make people aware of the need to ask for forgiveness before it is too late. According to him, after a person passes away, only good memories should remain, not haunting regrets over unsaid or undone things.
In this emotional interview, Gaur Gopal Das spoke about how his father was a chain smoker. His health badly deteriorated, and he used to get ill frequently. Trying to help, Gaur Gopal Das did not talk to him for years, thinking this would be a wake-up call for his father to quit smoking. His father pleaded with him, but he, being caught in his ego, remained silent.
Little did he know he was hurting the old man terribly. He didn't think; he was certain of himself because his intentions were good, yet he failed to remember that some things are considered while dealing with one's old man. It is the sense of ego clouding judgment where the opportunity was lost to really be there for the father he so desperately wanted.
For two long years, Gaur Gopal Das did not speak to his father. It was only when his father's patience broke and he collapsed in front of him, crying, that Gaur Gopal Das realized the gravity of his actions. Only after his mother intervened did he start talking to his father again. Yet, despite everything, he could not bring himself to apologize for the way he had treated him. Every time he thought of an apology, he hesitated. He never went on to apologise. Then one day in 2009 his father passed on. Losing the father was painful than words would ever say; the regret deepened at such a time: he wished to have done the mending early.
He came home, stood near his father's body, and his heart was full of sorrow and regret. He lied on the feet of his father, and in a whisper, he said, "Dad, forgive me. I never should have treated you this way." But by that time, he who could forgive him was no longer around. That was when the truth dawned on him: the window of reconciliation had closed, and with it, the window to make things right. This is why Gaur Gopal Das urges everyone to ask for forgiveness when they realize their mistake. When you realize the harm you may have caused, that's the time to fix it. When you wait, it comes back to haunt you only in the form of regrets and lost opportunities. So painful is this lesson that Gaur Gopal Das prays no one else need learn it in such a hard way.
Gaur Gopal Das still carries the pain of his decisions, even though he thought he was right in making them. His ego did not let him understand the full impact of his actions.
This is what he now teaches others: even when you think you are right, do not let your ego drive you to hurt the ones you love. Because the true measure of being right is not in proving a point—it's in the love and care you show to others, especially when they need it the most. Let your decisions be ones that bring peace, not regret. And remember, it's never too early to apologize, but it can be too late.