Are You in Love or Just Obsessed? 5 Clear Signs

True love must feel like home. Obsession gives us that sense of a ticking time bomb. It is not hard to get lost in the gray area between these two things, particularly during the first stages of a relationship when each text seems charged with electricity and each silence with threats. True love and obsession come from entirely different places, however, and this is why here we present five true indicators of obsession dressed in the cloak of love.

Are you in love with him or her or are you in love with the possibilities? Obsession will hang onto a fantasy, the possibility, the someday, the version that you've secretly modified in your mind. When they grow, they change, or they just appear as they are, it seems disruptive, not exciting. True love allows for a person's growth. Obsession wants them to remain in a story you created for them.

Pay attention to what comes to your mind at the beginning of the day. If your thoughts are full of excitement and enjoy spending each together , then it is love. If your first thought is fear that they will leave you, that they will find a better partner, that they are going to become tired of you then it is anxiety speaking.

Along the way somewhere, your interests, your views, your decisions began always around this one individual. Their joy has become your standard of happiness. Good love enhances who you are, it does not replace you. It is something worth considering if you do not even know what your last independent decision was.

If a secure individual is pushed away, he/she will sooner or later take a step back as well. An obsession, however, does exactly the opposite; it sees the other's absence as something to overcome and conquer, rather than as a piece of information. The more unavailable a person becomes, the more you chase him/her.

One good message and you're flying high. One delayed response and you're falling apart. If your emotional equilibrium depends on another person’s actions, this is no love story, this is codependence. It means that love makes you feel safe and calm in difficult times too. Obsession means being stuck in a roller coaster of feelings with no end in sight.

Because love builds you up, regardless of whether it’s perfect or not. Obsession, on the other hand, regardless of how passionate it might be, usually tears you down as far as your confidence and independence go. If you see some of these symptoms within your relationship, you’re definitely not damaged in any way. All you need to do is open up.

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Is it normal to be a little insecure in a relationship?

There is a natural level of insecurity. If it is taking over your thoughts, emotions and your decisions each day, it's a red flag.

Is obsession able to evolve into true love with time?

Yes, but only if they both establish trust and respect and allow the relationship to progress beyond fantasy.

When am I supposed to leave?

If the relationship is constantly taking a toll on your sense of self, self worth and peace, it is time to review the relationship.